Loi mon rat nguy hiem, boi neu cu truoc sau nhu mot, gap go cung mot kieu doi tuong, co the ban se phai doi mat voi mot hau qua giong nhu cac cuoc tinh truoc do: chia tay trong dau kho hoac den buoc duong cung.
Duoi day la 4 cach giup ban khong tro thanh nan nhan cua loi mon trong ho hen. 1. Nhin lai ban than Cac nha nghien cuu cho rang nhieu nguoi co cai goi la “ban do tinh yeu”. Ban do tinh yeu duoc hinh thanh truoc khi chung ta lon, co the la bat nguon tu viec chung kien moi quan he cua cha me, hoac tu nhung ky uc tuoi tho. Ban do tinh yeu quy dinh viec chung ta tim kiem nhung pham chat nhat dinh o nguoi yeu tuong lai, trong do co pham chat tich cuc va ca tieu cuc. Ban can nhin lai ban than va tu hoi tai sao minh cu “moi goi” nhung nguoi co nhung pham chat nhat dinh ay vao trong cuoc song cua minh. 2. Thay doi moi truong Da bao lan ban phan nan: "Tat ca nhung chang trai tot deu co noi chon ca roi" hay "Sao minh mai khong gap duoc co nao ngoan ca!". Khi do, hay tu hoi, minh da lam gi khac di trong cuoc doi de gap nhung kieu nguoi moi. Ban can phai thay doi moi truong neu muon gap kieu nguoi moi co nhung so thich va gia tri ban tran trong. Moi nguoi thuong “yen vi” trong mot loi mon boi vi no thoai mai va an toan. Nhung tinh yeu doi khi khong di tim ban, ma chinh ban phai kiem tim no. 3. Bo qua tieu chuan Ban co de ra cho minh mot quy tac “bat di bat dich” la chi hen ho voi nhung co toc thang mat den, hay chi cuoi nhung nguoi ngang tam hoc van? Qua that, nhung so thich chung thuong dan den mot moi quan he vung ben. Nhung ban danh sach tieu chuan cua ban co the tro thanh vat can. Ban se noi rang: “Toi chang de ra tieu chuan cho nguoi yeu”, nhung trong tiem thuc, ban co ca mot danh sach va khong nhan ra rang minh bi no dieu khien. Mot so tieu chuan (nhu cung ton giao hoac cung quan niem dao duc) rat can thiet cho hon nhan hanh phuc, nhung ban co the de dang hy sinh hau het cac tieu chuan khac neu san sang tu bo “vung troi binh yen” cua minh de den voi tinh yeu. 4. Dung che giau tinh trang doc than Neu ban dang kiem tim tinh yeu, dung giau. Hay ke voi ban be va nguoi than va hoi ho xem ho co biet ai do phu hop voi ban khong. Thoat dau, su “rao hang” nay nghe co ve dang nguong, nhung ban be la nhung nguoi hieu ban nhat, vi vay ho biet ai hop ban. Xuan Vu Theo Yahoo.com |
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